Hi Red ... thanks for writing. smirk I've been following your thread too. Try to keep up on all of us LBS with MLC'ers!

You know I really never get the cold shoulder from W. She just gives no indication she desires to reconcile or be intimate me. We are just "friends", such as it is under the circumstances. I will take this as opposed to the alternative.

Your H sounds very confused to say the least. Seems much too young for MLC, but then again, it can happen at any time. Keep your chin up, and keep up with the PMA. Really, it's been my only method of changing the atmosphere between W and I.

We actually have done almost nothing as a family in 5 months. Went out for Easter brunch. That was it. We did not get together for D17's b-day (she stayed with me, did not want to get together w/ mom). The girls had breakfast with their mom on W's b-day. I had a pre- b-day lunch with W the week before and gave her a card and plant. Othewise, again, she seems content to be alone mostly. I just don't get the sense she's off and running / partying like she was in Jan-Feb-Mar of this year. Hard to say where we are headed now as I'm not driving this bus. I just try to keep the trip as pleasant as possible, stay detached, and work on my own life with my kids.

Part of the problem is W has no family where we live and has attached herself to OM's friend / family network. Hence, this is the group she hears advice from. She has not discussed her sitch with either her mom, dad or brother. Same thing for the friends from her old life. Not to say these people would be influential with her MLC, but she literally lives "off the grid" from her old life.

Listen, if we both end up divorced, what will be will be. However, we can control our lives and attitudes today. Takes a lot of work, and quite a bit of faking it, but keeping a PMA really does work over time. I do feel so bad for you with such little ones. Mine are so much older and can take care of themselves. Hang in there.

Hope winter is going OK Down Under! smirk

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