I've not written to you before but wanted to let you know that my H is similar. He has not gotten very angry with me during this whole process though he does internalize alot of it. He mostly lets his mum know how he feels but not me. It's very unhealthy but I suppose at least I'm not copping it. And most of the stuff he says like all MLCers is not all true so it does make me a little mad that he's telling his family stuff.
Anyway because he is not angry it makes interactions with him easier. At times he's very pleasant. Lately he's also been very flirty, very flirty . But then the follwing interaction he's stand offish - like it never happened. He has even gone so far as to tell me he'd like us to work it out but then acts cold towards me. He does have OW who he works with but he is leaving his job in a weeks time. No expectations that this will resolve anything.
We also continue to do stuff as a family. I have a young son 3yrs old. When were together it feels totally right and we have the best time and I see glimpses of my H. Then he won't call for days on end not even if I've let him know that S3 is sick.
It does continue to make it difficult for me to detach. I love my H dearly and the interactions further cement that. I've been given to continue our interactions from wise people here on the board - keep the road home paved and smooth. My MIL also told me the same - she is a psychologist. But I do find it difficult because I feel at times I DO have expectations.
I guess only time will tell if what we are doing is the correct way to do things. As they say each person and situation is different.
W - 31 H - 33 Married - 7 years Together - 10 yrs Kids - S 3yrs old Separated - 27/03/11 OW - 10/04/11
. But then the follwing interaction he's stand offish - like it never happened. He has even gone so far as to tell me he'd like us to work it out but then acts cold towards me. He does have OW who he works with but he is leaving his job in a weeks time. No expectations that this will resolve anything. 