I think your right it is more of the same. its been 2 weeks since we've spoke. how do you respond to we never had fun in 18 years. our kids are much beter off now. you verbaly abused me for 18 yrs. you neglected me for 18 yrs. I was very calm talking to her and looked her in the eye. never told her I loved her. agreed with her alot.told her I handled some things poorly. agreed that we should get a divorce.( thats the last think I want) apoligized and excepted blame for alot of things. oh and I never brought this stuff up she did. she is very bitter about the custody battle but thats over now she got the kids M-F . it is more of the same but what do you talk about other than the past? thats all be have.