Can My Marriage Be Saved?

[a girl]

I think you should be present, but not following, inclusive, but not pursuing, reassuring, complimentary, but not condescending, available, but not a doormat. Tough? Yes, but you can do this.

This is a great way to look at it, especially the "inclusive but not pursuing". I'm trying to let him know of plans in a way that indicates he's welcome, but if he'd rather not, that's ok too. So far I think it's working, but it's hard to say.

Baby steps. Last night was discouraging - he's so certain that it's too late. I'm not giving up, though - better to try too long than not long enough.

Going to look at local event this weekend to take S to. We're already going to the fireworks show on Monday - H as well, but maybe there's something fun on Saturday to do.