Originally Posted By: HerbGarden
Thanks Gnosis

You're welcome.

Originally Posted By: HerbGarden
My W has said the exact same thing to me in the past.

Then figure out why you weren't listening and (as your wife has suggested) draw up a plan and follow it.

Originally Posted By: HerbGarden
I wasn't clear when I said that I could pat myself on the back after being consistent for a month. What I should have said was "make my W feel safe by acting like an adult w/o the anger and hurtful words.

As you know by now... your words are meaningless to her. They ring hollow. The only thing that remains are actions.

My recommendation is that you read this entire thread. Make notes of her requirements and find a way to meet them WITHOUT TALKING. Do them! Not for her, but for yourself because those are life skills you will need in any personal relationship.

You are fortunate in that she is still accessible to you where many others do not have that luxury. YOU WILL BE TESTED. Your life is on the line here, make sure you pass.