Filing for D could certainly be a 180 if you have continued to NOT file for D or as is said, if not filing D would be "more of the same"...
I'd submit that filing for D would be a LRT. So if you do file, you'd have to be willing to follow through with it.
OTOH, if you maintain you still do not want D, then perhaps consider NOT filing for D.
If your H wants it, let him do all the leg work. That does not mean trying to stop him, but it also means that you do nothing to initiate or move D forward in advance of your H's actions. Rather, you wait for anything that might require your input and provide that input only within the parameters set out, including the time frames. Nothing more, nothing less.
