What did NOT work for us is just as important as what did. Maybe more.
That's b/c while none of us can say "this WILL work", we can usually say what will NOT work...make sense?
This is great advice, especially when looking at other poster's threads.
Originally Posted By: MLC World
Don't get that she's out partying any more. She just seems more at peace with and by herself.
Hey World,
The OM.......is he in or out of the picture?? I think I read that they are still friends......Did she tell you they are just friends now and that she is not romantically involved??
I will tell you that I there was a period of time when I was doing a lot with my XW and going out to eat and spending time as a family with the kids and I thought that she was moving back towards me.......I also thought I was detached and could handle anything.
I was wrong.
She was still seeing the OM and when I found out it hurt.
More importantly it hurt my children because they saw me standing for my marriage wanting to work it out and they saw us spending time together and assumed that Mom was working on it.
My wife had stopped the partying and staying out late and all that other BS, she had normalized her life and I was happy to placate her at the time because I thought that she was working on the marriage.
IMO, until the MLC/WAS says they want to work things out, anything other than business like interactions is dangerous......especially for your kids.
The "good relations" with your W......while they feel good and we might think it is progress, they can actually do more damage.
That is unless you are okay to do all this stuff with her and basically "friend" her all the way to divorce.
That was the mistake I made............
If I had to do it all over again, I would have done it differently..........
just sayin'
Cheers
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
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