My Final Chapter

[MichelleLT]

How many nights I cried?

How many nights I prayed?

How many times that I wished for a phonecall a simple text.

Something!! Anything!!!

And now she misses my voice??

NO

That is what no contact gets you. That is why it is such a powerful tool.

Not fair.

My emotions count also

My feelings matter

They do. And you are entitled to your feelings.

But damn it I never bailed!! I never walked! I stood!! Against all odds I stood. I put myself In huge debt trying to save a M that was not worth saving!

It was worth trying. Otherwise it wouldn't be a marriage. Because when tested, you knew the kind of commitment you wanted. And we have to stand for our marriages or suffer the guilt and remorse later.

Now she misses my voice??????

They have to go before they can miss anything. They have to go further than we want them to. It's their journey as much as it is ours.

Relationships are always a tricky balance of self and couple. There has to be commitment with room for growth and individual responsibility. There is sometimes a fine line between inter-dependence and co-dependence, except the one is healthy and the other is not. People who are healthy don't leave their marriages. Depressed people, miserable people, people with poor coping mechanisms and poor relationship skills do. Unfortunately we all were in relationships that fell into some kind of toxic pattern and didn't recognize it or know how to fix it fast enough.

We don't get control over the other people in our lives though. We get influence, but not control. We all make mistakes. We make the best decisions we know how with the information that we have at the time. She lost hope. She believes it can't be fixed. She believes D was the only answer. We know she's not right, but that doesn't change what she believes. And word never convince the WASs.

Silence tells her everything that words cannot. Silence is an action. Silence is probably your best response to most of what she'll do to get a reaction out of you.