another book a lot of people find helpful is "After the Affair"...
IF your h asks for details, provide them as needed.
BUT if he does not ask leave it alone.
Sounds obvious, but there are some who want to relieve themselves of guilt
and dump way too much info on their spouses....
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016