I am new here, too. They tell me to read the books. It sounds like you need to stay the course. He must be hurt. But if he sees youy working for the mariage, changing the way you did the marriage, maybe he'll come around. A year is a long time to "seek divorce." Are you all in counseling? With a pro-marriage counselor? That's important.
Kelly, read the books. What have you got to lose? Read the divorce Remedy book if you already know you don't want a divorce. Div Busting talks a lot about why divorce is bad whereas Div Remedy has more ways to fix things. Depends where you are in this.
I don't really get why some people resist reading a book.
DBing is a novel but simple and radical approach based on finding solutions, not a rehashing of history or understanding what happened long ago or why...those things have their place, but it's not here.
DBing is about doing more of what works and less of what doesn't.
Simple but very different than most therapists.
Good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
