I had a ONS with a man over a year ago. First time I cheated , not that that makes it any better. I have not seen or talked to other person since discovery. What does that ^^^ mean? Your h "discovered" the affair or you told him or what? Were in contact with OM before then? Have you read the books? They help a whole lot and that includes the spouse who cheated. And don't fear being judged here.
You may hear things you don't want to here about your marriage, but this IS a good place to come. Plus there will be some who are curious about your view b/c they have been hurt by the cheating of their spouses and so, both "Sides" would benefit.
I did not make excuses for what happened and took 100% responsibility for the ONS. Husband has emotionally stepped away for most of the year and has been seeking divorce. Based solely on the ONS? What does he SAY are the reasons for wanting a divorce?
Will DB work in this case? Seems like most threads are about getting the wayward back. Meaning, what? Most WASs don't come here b/c they want out, or think they do. So naturally there are more spouses who've been left, who are referred to as Left Behind Spouses....or "LBSers"
Married but with no children. I tried pursuing him for a year but it is not working.
How long was the marriage? Have you read the divorce Remedy book or the divorce Busting book? They Help a lot. They form the basis of this site's approach
so in order to fully benefit from the solution based approach, and this site, you really need to read the books.
Yes I think most marriages can be saved. Don't know how far along you two are or what the marriage was like before.
Do you know why you had a ONS? It may relate to the condition of the marriage and it may not.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
