Just a journaling update (helps sort things in my head)...
Continued good relations with W. Took D13 over to W's house for D13 to have dinner last evening. Also, W wanted her bicylce so I brought this too. She invited me to have a beer and we relaxed in the sun while dinner cooked. She has a beautiful farmhouse on large acreage and the pastoral view is fantastic. Then, surprise ... she invites me to stay for dinner! I casually say sure, that'd be great (inside, I'm like YEAH!). She and I, the two girls, and D17's boyfriend have dinner outside. Beautiful summer evening. However, her conversation continues to be sprinkled with references to her continued and future life as a single person. This is meant to keep me at arm's length, which I'm OK with. I just listened, encouraged, and mostly agreed. Ever positive.
She seems to increasingly allow and / or seek my company and appears to enjoy our interactions. She's much calmer these days and seems to be sorting things out. Seems to spend a lot of time alone gardening, reading, painting, going to coffee with friends, etc. Don't get that she's out partying any more. She just seems more at peace with and by herself.
D13 and I leave shortly after dinner, as I told W I had errands to run. Got home and went out to have drinks with divorced neighbor gal / attorney (only as friends, no romantic interest on my part). Got to keep GAL.
Anyway, D13 told me of an acreage property W picked up a listing flyer for in the area. Looked it up and thought I might ask if she wants to look at it just for fun. We did this with some waterfront homes that were for sale a few weeks ago and she seemed to enjoy it. I never mention the future, but just say I'm interested in these homes as an alternative future for me, which is quite true.
I cannot alter the course of her MLC, but I do find it interesting to introduce to her new visions for her to consider for her own future. I know she wants to continue to live in the country. She was so done with suburban cul-de-sac living. Just trying to keep things as friends only, nothing more. I wish her well in whatever direction she travels.
