What is YOUR spouse's stereotype or chief complaint about you?
Very good. Which led me to the struggle with knowing going dark is the best..
one complaint over the last year, is w said she doesn't always get a straight answer from me/vague and doesn't trust me. Which is recommended in DBing. How do I change this when dark? Was being extremely transparent until going dark, but was also making all the pleading, gifts, etc. mistakes we LBS' make.
Money--Wants me do work outside of my consulting buisiness to bring in more money (remember me saying we agreed to swithch who was at home for the kids more)my sched. is more flexible and her job more stable, hence, me taking the lead with the kids-now uses against me..I'm looking for more work.
Quick emotioned-I have owned this and recognized the stressors of snapping verbally at the family? NEED TO LET THINGS ROLL off back.
More affectionate-like many, I GOT THIS, HOWEVER, she won't let me past the WAW wall now and give me the chance our m deserves. W said after filed," I don't want a D but this is where we are." She's onm a mission, now. So puzzling.
Claimed I was a wedge between w and her parents. This was probably at one time, the only stress in our marriage. Her parents are very loving and good people/g.parents. The problem is they are way too overbearing always over stay their welcome, never enough for them. Always have to sleep over even when they use to live an hour away. Been going on for 13 years..
I got tired of w being sad trying to make them happy, so I stood up for w and realized I took that train way to far down the track and have apologized. Ironic how the inlaws are way too involved with this and bought her a house, in her ear, enabling.
So w complaints: Vague/trust, quick emotioned, needs to be more emotionall safe, more affection, money
