Its my life

[GAL Man]

I wanted to take a couple of days to think about this Kaffe, one of the best Q put to me.

I said right from the beginning that we were BOTH unhappy, and W admitted to me she treated me like SH*T and had been a bitch to me, I know my faults and are addressing them, although minimal (W has only said that I talked down to her and that I am a great guy). I took a deep look at myself and the situation and determined MY needs and wants out of life. Back at the start of this I said I would only get back with W (if on the table) if she were to address HER issues and faults and work to putting things right that I was unhappy about also.

Whilst up to your question this would have been a "deal breaker" for me, and I would not have looked to have W back if that possibility arose, but now I suppose that if W was willing to come back that would indicate that she would be willing to work on the issues, no need for me to specify them up front. I cannot control or influence that, and don't intend to even try, I only control me and W is on her own journey.

Your right in that I wouldn't ask a potential new partner what life experiences they have and how they would have addressed them.

This week has been strange, in that earlier in the week I "thought" I didn't want her back as she has become someone unattractive to me and is in a very strange place, however I am now not sure again what I want. SO, I have decided and chosen NOT to think about that scenario right now, time and place!