Nearly 5 years but who is counting?

[missmyfriend]

It's late at night. My youngest is on Skype with several friends and I am watching shows on my DVR that I never got around to watch.

A HUGE surprise today, well at least huge to me, if you knew my wife. She has tried to sever all ties to me, as much as she can with us sharing 3 children, so she usually has the attitude that when the kids are with me, I make the decisions and when they are with her, she makes the decisions. If it is relatively important, I always consult her. I also check with her if the kids want to go out of town with a friend, if I am going to take them on vacation, or other things when I would want to know about if they asked her. She usually says, its up to you. The kids are with you right now. I can't remember when she has consulted me on anything, except if it is major or a dental, medical or other insurance issue for one of the kids (I take care of all the insurance).

What I was really surprised about happened today. My older son (16) asked if he could go over to his uncles (wife's brother) on the fourth of July. Since he hasn't been staying with me, I said "Ummm, sure" in a surprised tone that he was asking me. He added that "mom said to check with you". I said of course and I said I appreciate her having my son check with me.

I know that doesn't sound big to most but to me, it is very big. No, I am not reading anything into it except that I feel like it was a display of respect and I can't tell you how long it has been since she has shown me any respect.

I don't know if I could have been any happier than if she said "I love you" to me!

Just wanted to share...

I hope everyone has a wonderful fourth of July (even my friends from other countries).