Just remember D1, that dark is for you. You will know how dark you need to be. Whatever helps you stay centered and off the roller coaster is probably what's right.
As far as your W understanding consequences. It's not for us to teach consequences. Life will do that. Whether your W realizes or not is for her to come to in her lifetime... or not...
How is it said? Our happiness should not be measured by our S's misery...
