As expected, W hasn't tried to make any contact. Wait, wouldn't this be an expectation? Have to work on that.
As funny as that is, good notice!
Now try to mix that up a little and figure out what would make you expect her to contact you and then see if the results were as expected, or that she unexpectedly does not contact you... lol!
As far as SD... what's the game plan of staying dark? How will you accomplish that?
Dark may be difficult the next few weeks, to put it mildly. Obviously, when I go pick up SD and see her puppy, W may be there. If so, polite but detached to her. She also might not be there, which makes the dark oh so much easier. Not sure how much I'll see SD while she's in town. I'm sure she'll spend time with her friends. She'll probably also spend time with her grandparents (my MIL and FIL), so I'm sure I'll see her there.
I also think BIL, his W and kids are coming to visit soon, so W and I may run into each other there. Polite but detached. Polite but detached.
There's also a wedding in 9 days that we're both going to. Groom to be told me yesterday that it's an open bar and that he wants everyone to get their moneys worth. Oh great. I can stay sober. I think W can too. The wedding will be the big test. Polite but detached. Oh, and hitting on a bridesmaid or something
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
I think I was the textbook DB this evening and it feels good!
SD texted me while I was on my way there; she said her mom wanted to know if I wanted more Swiss Chard from the garden. I replied 'yes, I would. Thank you!', picked up my boys and headed over there. We got there and it didn't feel weird at all to me. Knocked on the door, SD answered and as I walked in a little one-pound fuzzy thing ran at me. SD's Yorkie puppy might be the cutest thing I've ever seen! Picked her up (the puppy) and she was all licking and nibbling and I was laughing a ton. W and SD were both amused. I was really upbeat, made a few jokes and made W laugh and took off.
Dinner was nice, it was good to catch up with SD and her with my boys. Showed her my apartment afterwards and she agreed it was tiny. She asked more about it, told her it would be month to month soon. She asked if I was going to stay, get something else or buy a house like my old one (before W). Told her I definitely wasn't buying a house as who knows where I'll end up. She understands. W and our sitch didn't really come up at all, at least not directly.
Brought SD back home and her friend was there waiting for her. Talked to friend for a moment and when I saw W I said I'd take the chard she offered. She went out in the garden to pick it, which confused me. Turns out SD didn't get the text I replied back. We jokingly argued for a minute until W came back in. W then asked if I'd take some squash soon, as it's overrunning the garden. Looks like I have my produce set for a while. Wished W and SD a good camping trip, told everyone it was nice to see them, but even nicer for them to see me and left holding my Swiss Chard like a bouquet.
When I got in my car, I noticed a car idling in front of the house. Pulled out of the driveway, didn't see the driver, but noticed the CA plates. OM just got a car from his parents in San Diego. Coincidence I'm sure... I got a little extra kick knowing I came out of the house all smiling and with fresh garden vegetables. I wonder if OM ever gets jealous?
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
jes havin' fun! 
