New - HELP! Tried the 180/Last Resort & Failed

[AloneAt35]

I'm glad you think I did okay 25years! I tell you, nothing has made me feel so empowered as getting your approval!

There is other news, just as sat down to write this, the phone rang. Guess who it was? It was Ex-P. I was so shocked to hear his voice I said, "Why are you calling?!?" I didn't say it in a mean way, I was just genuinely surprised.

He said he forgot to ask me how my job interview went yesterday. I told him it went great. Then he wanted to offer me some suggestions about my future living situation. I said, "I've already thought about all of those things, but thanks." I was totally upbeat but a little dismissive because frankly, he's the last person who should be offering me advice. He's the cause of all of this and I wish I could have reminded him about that.

Then he went on to say he was worried about me riding my bike tomorrow. (I go back to work to teach three weeks of summer school on Tuesday and we have a preliminary meeting tomorrow and so it is my first time taking my bike and I have to walk down the highway, and ride mostly on main roads, etc.). I said, "Well, would you rather I hitch-hike?" He then proceeded to criticize the route I had chosen and said he was emailing me a better route.

Then I tried to end the conversation while I was still cheerful so I said, "Why don't I let you go." He said, "Why?" I said, "Because its 7:15 and you are still at work." Then he started talking about a mutual friend of ours (really *his* friend...I haven't heard a peep from any of "our" friends since this whole situation began - like its contagious).

I tried to end the conversation again, I said, "I'll check my email for the better route later, so I'll let you get home."

He said, "Please email me when you make it home safely from work tomorrow." I said, "There is no reason to worry and that might be a bit weird since you are off from work tomorrow." (I said that because he told me OW is visiting for a long weekend and he previously told me that I am NOT to ever email him or phone him except when I am POSITIVE he is at work.) He hesitated and said, "You are right, but at least email me on Sunday afternoon" (presumably after OW leaves). I said "Maybe." Then I quickly said goodbye and hung up while I could still be cheery.

Do I email about my long bike commute or leave him hanging?

Frankly, I am a little irked about his "concern." And frankly, I imagine that the DB community cares more about my long bike commute than he does. If he cared so much he could have given me the "emergency" 5k weeks ago and maybe I could have gotten a car to get to work in, but I couldn't afford one so a bike was the best option. I solved the problem as best as I could and I deserve his respect for that. His "concern" is too little too late.

PS. 25years, I love what you say about how I shouldn't say 'when' or expect to see him again. Its just the truth on so many levels. The man has been *SO* inconsistent, has gone totally AWOL on several occasions, and has left me for another woman whose ring he is wearing. Seeing him again is realistically the last thing I should expect or wait for. As painful as that it, I need to accept it. Plus, who knows when he will dip back into "Mr. Resentful mode".