Thanks for your posts. This is an interesting topic, Beatrice and Snodderly. 25 said, " I find most men (maybe women too, but I'm biased) are like swinging monkeys and cannot let go of one vine unless they have another one already in hand." I know I have read this before; men especially seem to be in another relationship or at least aware of the next relationship before they leave the first. This would seem to be the case in my situation. I haven't asked H if ow is still emailing but there is no evidenceI can see of her anywhere else. When we are together and H receives a text or call he now tells me who it is. I'm aware of course, that he could at anytime be making contact with ow and there is the whole transparency debate but one I've decided not to get involved in.
It's interesting that Rabbit and GAG are advising to put myself first and I must say I am feeling strong and in control. I think it is because I have the support of a good therapist and because I know that I am being consistent on my path. I am clearly stating my opinions and I can see H trying to make some changes although not as quickly as I would like!!! perhaps, too, H is keeping it at a slower pace as this is all he can manage. I know I can say goodbye at anytime and if H says goodbye then I'll be fine. I am making mistakes of course, but for the most part it's going along reasonably well.
At this stage we spend a lot of time having dinner at each other's homes. We haven't done too much out aside from an occasional dinner at a restaurant and a recent shopping trip. I seem to do the initiating although H does invite D and I for dinner at his house and his AoS are fairly consistent.
