Actually... I was thinking more along the lines of...
She's done punishing (abusing) you.
Really? Really? What do you consider punishing me? When she talks about that night? Or was she punishing me when even after she was openly (other than to me) with OM/Boss she was still flirting with me, going to the concert, telling me how hot I look, and even suggesting she would go on vacation with me? I know...I know...I am not supposed to care at this point. But I do. I may never "move on" until I understand at least, a little of the past.
Then stay stuck in the past...your choice. Since you have kids, why not make a healthy choice? That would be a 180, right?
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