I am so lost... Please someone help me!

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Johnnie, I just read some of initial posts. You definitely remind me of myself when i first came to these forums.

I'll just try to go over some stuff in no particular order.


1: The N.U.T.S book: Reading your first post, this is a good book. Believe me when i say. Be a strong man and exude confidence and you can attract your wife back. Be needy and you will drive her away. Another good book is "5 love languages by gary chapman". It is a great book that gives you practical tips on how to understand your spouse better.

I find it tough to not show emotion when I think about things, because I love my W so much, and am disappointed where we are now. I want nothing more than to see her smile at me or call me "baby cakes" like she used to. I don't know if it makes me weak to admit that I am still in love...

See, thats being needy. Nothing wrong in expecting love and warmth from your wife. But now's not the time, especially when she feels she's done with you. Get rid of this attitude and you will notice that you have become emotionally much stronger.

I also am having a tough time seeing the effect on my parents.

As long as this is not affecting your parents health-wise, dont worry about it now. Now's the time to address and fix your issues and fix your relationship. Your parent's emotional well-being can wait. I know this very well because I went through the same stuff at the beginning.

Things are really tough at work right now. It is VERY difficult to be online with customers screaming at you about the stupidest things when I know that in 2 months I will be out of my job. I am worried about how I will pay the bills, especially my medications... Also my therapist visits will no longer be covered, so I am not sure how I will cope with any more bombs.

Sorry it is bad at your work. In this situation try to prioritize your life to figure out how you can stay afloat. If you think your job gives a good deal of self-confidence, then make sure you have backup after you are out of your job. Right now you don't want your job situation to play on you emotionally. Also remember, jobs and money come and go. It is not the end of the world.

I am trying to remain vigilant, stick to the plan, and most importantly work on myself. I would give anything to be out of this hell...

Believe me you will get out of this hell. Time is a great healer. You gotta give it time though. Look at this time as opportunity to fix all the 'bad' stuff about yourself. Analyze your situation. Look at your contribution to the marriage failure. Work on each of those issues. If you feel you are not sure if an attribute of yours is good or bad(because you were conditioned in the marriage), bring it here, get feedback.

Develop confidence that you can take on the world. Then you will see that things will improve.

Good luck!