This hurt my D and I am skeptical to let her even see her. At this point I am trying to protect my D more than anything.
Yup you can deal with your EX's rollercoaster, but your D will not be equipped to deal with it. As all others are saying, reply that you'd rather D not see her.
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...
