Fool me once, Shame on ME

[ninelives]

Small Update:

Thanks for all the responses about my so called problem in the sack. Turns out that it was a "something about Mary answer"

Had a pregame prior to going over the other day. Me and new ladyfriend had a discussion. She said she felt mildly offended that I could not close the deal. A little insecure if you will. I on other hand, thought that lasting long time was good as I am all about pleasing her.

So last night , had dinner at my place, no pregame for me and tried to finish early as to please her that she is all that and couldnt hold myself long. And did, not quite Ross from Friends episode but quicker than even normal for me.

She then mentins that she was almost there and If I could have gone a little longer, she would have. Well, how the hell do we win gentlemen.

Think i have a handle on it now.

She made it very clear that we are not in a relationship and doesnt see it going far as I am 14 years older than her, but she doesnt want to close the door either. And I made it clear that I am not over my wife yet and really am just trying to find my way. She too not over her relationship.

Both of us admitted that our egos have been bruised by previous relationships with our partners leaving.

She is very different then my W. Very outdoors oriented. Very independent. Very much into sex. Loves to boat etc.

We concluded that we will try and help each other through the summer and if things develop with our ex's, we understand.

I am communicating with her like I NEVER did with my Wife. I felt like I got dumped a bit last night but she mentioned that she did want to get together alot this summer , just doesnt want to put labels on it like we are in a relationship. Small town.

Im way cool with that.

Summer starts for me in 20 minutes.

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