KD thanks for responding...yes I am still angry about giving money to her even though I talk at great lenth with my C about this......So another Roller Coaster starts....Even going dark...even trying to detach...why do I let her suck me back in....I did however block her phone number and sent her an email...telling her not to text or call.. I would prefer an email....the money issue is done....the visitation is done....she can have anyone of my teenagers call me in a emergency....Don't know if this was good or bad....But being dark even though I think about her.....is easier than talking to her....I read on a post here that a husband liked and loved talking or fighting with his WAW...it made him still feel connected.....17 months and I am just about over it....Not quite but just...now for the 2x4's Sandi and 25 where are you..