I have only just started on your thread, but plan on getting deep into it this weekend. As far as your comments, you make some solid points and do ask great questions.
Wish I could figure out how to do the "Quote" thing. Every time I try it, it copies the entire post. I've called DB, but Karen said she did not know how to work that feature. Quick solution, if it is not a bother?
Some quick answers to your questions:
1) My point was my W is very good to her daughters at all times and I know she loves dearly. She tries extra hard in their presence to be loving and positive as she's kind of "lost" them over the last 6 months due to her R with OM. She kind of boxed herself into the corner by her actions, but I know she's trying hard to extricate.
I already consider her successful in that she has kept her R with OM away from them. We are both learning to co-parent and will be successful if both kids feel safe in our presence, separately or together. I think we've achieved that already. As I've said, OM is / was but a symptom and not the cause of her MLC. Actually, I've got no idea what is the status of their R at this point. Don't care either.
2) I am more interested in the journey because of don't know the final destination. I can't control it (dammit!). It's about living for today and seeing what postive changes I can make in my life and have the best impact on those around me. Each day brings new insights and surprises, some good, some not so good.
3) Circumstances can make all the difference in the world in influencing your POV. It was only when I realized how lucky I actually am, and stopped feeling angry, forgave my wife, and feeling sorry for myself, that my POV changed. Many on this board have it way tougher than me, so it is much harder for them to get a PMA.
Keep up the good work Eric. Even though I may not always agree with you, I highly value your input.
