LP - Good luck tonight! Just enjoy the concert and your w's company. No pressure.
Can't wait to hear how it goes.
Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
My co-worker who was brining a friend knocked on my door a few minutes early and asked if I minded that she brought two other women along. Had to think a long time on that one They were all pretty cool. I made homemade margaritas and they all enjoyed them. W ended up texting and asked what time I was getting there. Gave her my time and chatted with the ladies a bit more before heading over. Honestly, one of them seemed to like me quite a bit. It's nice to feel that way.
Ran into my ILs heading to my seats. Had no idea they were going and they had seats about 6 rows ahead of us! W showed up towards the end of the opening act (Florence + the Machine) and we exchanged pleasantries. She hadn't eaten, so during the break we made a bathroom/food break. She bought me a water which was nice.
Had some pretty good conversation before show started, nothing too heavy. During the show, we'd talk in each other's ear and make some observations. One that struck me around sunset - W commented that it reminded her of the sunsets we watched together in Key West last year.
The stadium has bench seating, and the guy to my left kept getting squeezed closer to me, so I had to squeeze closer to W. She kept brushing up to me while standing, so I don't think she minded.
I had a great time and sung along to the songs I knew. W sat down for With or Without You, I sang along (last year, I made her a mix CD with that song on it, pre-DB).
On the way out, she asked me to point her to where the main road was. She's directionally challenged, and campus is confusing, so I walked with her until we got there. I took a left, her right and I just smiled and waved as we parted.
In summary, we had a great time and I was a DB champion It's late now, heading off to bed, I'll see what Denver (and maybe others) think in the morning.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
That sounds great LP!!! I'm really, really happy that you had a good time at the concert. Now, please don't have any expectations with this. It is probably not going to change anything. BUT, it was a good experience shared with W. And she will think about it, I'm sure. But no expectations. A single event such is this is not going to have a drastic effect. It is the sum of everything that you do that has a chance.
I'm so happy to hear that this went well for you. I have to admit, I was a bit nervous about it.
Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
No worries Denver, no expectations here. I thought it would be weird to see her after over a month, but it wasn't. It was nice, but I didn't 'feel' anything special about having her there. Like I think I mentioned before, like a sister or something.
A couple of other things stood out from our convos. First, I had asked SD a few days ago if she wanted to have dinner with my boys and I Thursday. She said she thought that was the day they all left for camping. Told her ok, we'll figure something out at some point. Mentioned dinner with SD to W, and she said SD might not go camping now and eve if she did, they wouldn't leave too early on Thurs. W said at the end of the night she'd let me know if she heard anything from SD. Guess that's a good reason for her to keep in contact.
Other thing I found amusing: W asked if MIL had sent me a link to a video on communication. That was the email that eventually got back to W last week, so I told her yes. W complained that she wants to watch the video, but she's so busy with work, housework, etc that she doesn't have the time to watch it. She says she's eating unhealthy and gaining weight due to too much to do and being her alone. In the meantime she sees me eating healthier and talking about the running and other things I make time for. Plenty of time No, I don't rub it in...
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
Hey sunny, thinking about you on the way into work this morning. Perfect weekend for camping, hope all was well for you and your H!
I'm in a pretty good, comfortable spot right now. I don't wish ill on my W, but yes, she is learning the pros and cons of living alone. SD will be there for about a month, but I suspect that will be a net stress on W. SD still has that 'annoying teen' thing going on with her M and is bringing her new puppy there (total 3 dogs, 2 cats and a fish now!).
I think the next time we see each other will be for a wedding in two weeks. I suspect she'll miss me
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
On the way out, she asked me to point her to where the main road was. She's directionally challenged, and campus is confusing, so I walked with her until we got there. I took a left, her right and I just smiled and waved as we parted.
Hey LP, Thank you for thinking of me... It was a beautiful weekend for camping and very very busy...Big grad party and campers just coming out of the wood work.Man am i tired! lol
I've realized I haven't journaled/updated here in a few days. Nothing new.
As expected, W hasn't tried to make any contact. Wait, wouldn't this be an expectation? Have to work on that.
Most of the week has gone by well. Heading to Toronto for a concert Saturday and decided I'd go to Montreal the next day. Two reasons: 1) I've never been there and 2) I'll get to speak in mauvais francais
I did have some feelings of loneliness and wanting to be with W yesterday. Was out with friends at a bar along the river. Very nice, great atmosphere but most people were in couples. I miss that. Not sure if I miss the couple concept or my W really.
My SD is in town for a month or so and I'm picking her up for dinner tonight. It'll be the first I've been at W's (our) house in six weeks. My S14 asked me today if the recent concert was awkward. Told him not really, but I think tonight will be. As long as I remember I'm there for SD (and to see her new puppy) I think I'll be fine.
Me 43 W 38 M 5 T 7 SD20 S15, S13 with 1st W ILYBNILWY June 2010 Separation/Bomb July 2010 Divorce Feb 8, 2011
They were all pretty cool. I made homemade margaritas and they all enjoyed them. W ended up texting and asked what time I was getting there. Gave her my time and chatted with the ladies a bit more before heading over. Honestly, one of them seemed to like me quite a bit. It's nice to feel that way.
