Ya, mon... went to SF a couple weeks ago. Didn't get a chance to do a lot of visiting, but it was still very nice to get out there again.
Went there for a seminar so got both a clear head AND a full head... lol!
I have partly moved to this forum to do exactly as you say. To take some time and really put thoughts to paper, as it were. A plan of action...
Regarding the sitch, I think you'll understand exactly what I mean here...
People worry about how going dark may "allow" the OS to move on. Not so much pushing them away, but allowing them to drift apart. And I know that's not the case...
Here's the real deal. Going dark and getting out of the drama has allowed me the time to think about who I am, how I want to be better, and coming to a realization that... if I end up D, I am so, really OK with that. I almost look forward to it.
Of course, I will "do the right thing" and consider rec if my W were to want to go that route. I do still love (care about) her.
I will be DBing the entire way. I will DB me during this continued separation, I will DB the mediation, I will DB the D, and I will DB rec (if that were to happen).
The only thing I can say is I really have to GAL now, over the summer. The kids might be on summer holidays, but my W always books them solid and between work and their travels / activities, I may not have a lot of opportunity to see them or talk to them.
