Holding, Hopeful, but Realistic

[25yearsmlc]

World,

I admire how fast you get that you have to have a PMA and you really seem to.

I do take issue, a bit, with one "piece of your piece". Not to quibble but

for me, and many others I suspect,

the paradox of DBing is that

I became much more attractive to h,

and he became a lot more interested in working on the m and HE changed too

Only when I became detached

and finally knew no matter what HE did,

I and the kids would be fine...and I meant it.

I had an awakening

after so much internal pain and suffering. I kind of ended it, ya know?

I just could not tolerate being miserable anymore and I had kids to model healthy behavior for...


I expected to be single at the end of '05. I gave us a 10% chance of reconciling and so, I moved on.

AS IF A SWITCH GOT TURNED ON..h "woke up" after this happened.


So when someone says "don't change to get them back",

it's said with the proviso, I think,

that only when it's NOT FOR THEM, might it become the very thing that gets them to notice.

Confusing? Heck yeah...but still, I think it's true. Hope this helps clear up what I've said.

And Beatrice, while you raise a good point about posters' history here, I think it's important that people learn also from our mistakes.

What did NOT work for us is just as important as what did. Maybe more.

That's b/c while none of us can say "this WILL work", we can usually say what will NOT work...make sense?