"My only issue is that I can tell she is back to bottling." That ain't your only issue.
Seriously....porn? You know, most people when they say that they need to make some extra cash, actually try to get a job. They don't require large amounts of education - waitress, server, whatever. Usually a normal person does not throw out porn as an option.
I think I finally figured it out. All your W's been talking about is sex, trying new things, etc.
Ever thought that she might be addicted to sex? It really does sound like it to me. Honestly, I don't see your sitch getting better. It seems to be getting worse.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.