Hey there Denver, I just need to make a few short points FWIW...
1. Just a few short weeks ago you caught OM on the toilet in W bedroom watching and/or taking care of SS. Not long after that you wish her a heart felt HAPPY ANNIVERSARY???
I ask you this my friend... Would YOU respect any person that did the same thing? You W does anything she wants and good 'ol Denver is there with live and support not long after. Not attractive at all. I don't say this to hurt you my friend. I really want you to have your wife/family back.
2. A few days back I made the following comment.....
"There are consequences for bad behavior"
And you said....
"How would punishing W help my sitch?"
Not punishing Denver, consequences!!!
Like...
NOT being there for your W financially or emotionally when she needs you...
AT LEAST FOR NOW!!!
Listen, I have a friend newly divorced. He too tried to save his marriage before D day. He was unsuccessful...
Now she is angry cause she has no money, no support, and no help... My friend will do nothing more than pay what the courts ordered and not a penny more. SHE IS ANGRY AT HIM DENVER CAUSE SHE FEELS HE SHOUL DO MORE!!!
His response...
"Why should I, she choose to leave. If she needs help she has a family. She can ask them. She CHOOSE not to have me as family. I owe her nothing."
And you know something Denver... He's RIGHT!!!
Consequences Denver, NOT PUNISHMENT...
Get it?
Good luck my friend...
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012
