WAW, and a bisexual open marriage part 3

[Young at Heart]

I am glad you are feeling better about things and your move went relatively smoothly.

As to finances and your wife saying she will make money through porn, I am reminded of my son's when they were teenagers wanting to get rich quick by trading baseball cards or starting a band and getting famous. It was part of their immaturity.

I think that your wife really does want to have her own money, but may be clueless as to what she could do to make money and so she uses "the porn card" as her way to both express a real feeling and "get to you."

Is there some way you could help her find a legitimate job that would require her to take some responsibility (i.e. grow up and out of her MLC) and have the job give her some money of her own to spend? (There are often jobs for teaching conversational english language skills.)

Your comment about control issues is well taken (IMO) because she probably is feeling like she is the "kept little girl" and you are taking care of everything. Your comments about rather worrying about the finances sort of reinforce that. I am sure that was not the intent, but you might want to do some introspection on what kind of "responsiblities/role" she has in your marriage and what signals/expectations you may be providing her.

Similarly, have you come up with any ideas on the cause of her MLC?

She does sound like with love and a solid man to lean on that she is making progress in her relationship with you. These things do take time.

Make sure she sees a doctor as it might not be a stress induced period, but something else.

A final parting thought is to ask how your GAL is going and what kind of GAL goals you have or are thinking about now that you will be at your new location for a while.

Good luck to you and your wife, I wish the two of you the best. I hope your mini-vacation and new posting are a honeymoon that brings the two of you closer together.