Hey- Back when we were in mc, w said she "was afraid of me emotionally." I was dumbfounded and went the route of "I'm so nice to u, loving, affectionate, etc., I believe it stems from me being "short" with w the last year and snapping/quick emotioned. Never hit w or the kids physically but have owned that I have been snappy the past year and think the stressor was finances in my business, her parents being overbearing, and just feeling a lot of pressure that usually wasn't there
Having said that, as many know, when getting blindsided in mc, we feel attacked and whenever I would stand up for myself I think w would connect that assertiveness with the behaviors she wants to get rid of. The past few years I have taken the lead with the kids because her job is more stable with benefits and I consult with more flexibility built in..mutual decision. And now uses that against me as not contributing enough financially. Like she re-wrote the story her way, crazy.
Not sure what else I can do now, AK. been dark/dim for a couple weeks and pre-trial is next week. And..w looks sooo freakin' good, lately! Killing me slowly, my word..
