Don't know where I am

[angel61]

And Harrier, STFU doesn't necessarily mean to say cold war or NC or whatever. Just means no R talk. Keep the connection, talk about the kids, the weather, make her smile with funny stories, be entertaining if she's willing to listen. Listen when she talks. If it is R talk, nod, validate, etc. but find a way to get out of it when you could. Don't believe all that she says, as you know, its a "whim" ( your own words).