Nearly 5 years but who is counting?

[missmyfriend]

@Starsky, I know that God "allows" for divorce in the case of adultery. The word "allows" says it all. He didn't say that we have to divorce but He will permit it. I am actually divorced. My wife filed for divorce and I didn't fight her on it.

I think that most of the people who come to these boards have had spouses commit adultery. I think it is a matter of what you are willing to forgive. God forgave me of quite a lot so I am trying to follow Him as best that I can.

Has my wife kept her wedding vows? I think you already know the answer to that.

Regarding, cherry picking scripture to justify that I really WANT? I would say that, if that was the case, my wife and the other person, would probably have been stoned (and not with the mind altering substance type), I would probably be remarried and sleeping with my servants and possibly slaves, and could probably get away with (at least on earth) all sorts of things. I certainly wouldn't prefer to follow the narrow path. It is nearly impossible to do what Jesus did but we are instructed to. And again, I am not telling you anything of what you should do. I have a hard enough time staying on the path without worrying about anyone else.

Starsky, there is something else that concerns me. You seem to be making this more personal than you should. I really am feeling more at peace than I used to. Yes, I miss my family. I have known my wife for over 30 years and we started dating 25 years ago. We were married for 16 years before this happened and divorced after 18. She was my best friend.

Even though you say this is between me and God, you have a follow up sentence "...but". I have had to fight my nature to walk away from everyone; not just my wife but my children also. My nature is to get even. But for some reason, God has seen fit to put a love for my wife in my heart and help me to forgive a lot of the stuff that has happened. I pray that He does that with my wife, my children and others that know me.