The big punch - Redux

[Redo]

The biggest problem through my sitch has been the "dropping the rope" part. I guess it is because when i came here, i could be described as a good example for co-dependency (or doormat).

Thanks to lot of good folks here on the forums, I am slowly recovering. Honestly i dont think i ever took time to mature as a man. I guess that is why wife always joked that she was dealing with a kid.

I am learning now what it takes to be a man. And what it takes to be a husband. Good stuff. Sometimes i feel stupid that i never introspected myself these 11 years or sought help.

But after being on these forums for about 6 months now it feels so empowering.

I think yesterday's conversation with my MIL showed that. Usually i am so scared about wife leaving me that i compromise on everything. Agree to everything. But yesterday i told them that even if wife decided to come back, that she would have to change her attitude and way of thinking. And that if she did not change, then i would not want that person. Wow, after i said that, i had this rush. I am pretty sure my IL were shocked too. They always knew me to be the 'bookworm nerd with no life skills'. I am not sure how long this euphoria will last, but it does feel good to be empowered.