In response to 25's comment about her making it clear she wanted out:
STBX said and did so many confusing things that she didn't "make it clear she wants out". Do you go on 2 vacations, date, crawl into my bed, flirt, suggest another vacation together (much of that while openly with OM), if you are making it clear you want out? Those are things you do in a relationship or when you are trying to create one, not end one. She did all of those things right up until the day I found out she was now openly with him. Only then, did things change and we start moving towards divorce. 2 days before I found out, she called me at work to suggest putting my name in a contest at the restaurant and suggesting I come to the draw night there. And about a week before that said to me "I have a job interview and am considering vacation with you". Those things actually happened just days before the truth came out. Look back at my posts from mid April. You will see how confused I was. I wish I knew how to link those posts to here.
