So in the spirit of my 180 of being more loving of my W and being more present in our M, I decided that it was the right thing to do.it would make ME feel better.
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Later, she posted a few photos of herself and her girlfriends together in Philly. She included comments about how much fun she was having and "I'm so happy!" ... It made me a little sad that she wasn't thinking of me...
. . . which is EXACTLY why you were advised NOT to do this, Denver -- the whole "expectations" thing, which you said you had in check. Look, you WANT to have it in check, but we who advise you can see that you don't (and that's okay!), so why do you ask for the specific advise (about acknowledging the anniversary), and then ignore it? I think 2/3rds said NOT TO DO ANYTHING, and another 1/3rd said to send a SIMPLE acknowledgment, but you go ahead and go all "melty/mushy man" on her, with more PRESSURE.
I'm sorry, I think this was a tactical mistake. Not that any ONE of those will kill your chances, but you DO only get so many, and you only get ONE wedding anniversary every 12 months as an opportunity to show your wife that you are giving her space, and possibly even moving on.
