Cadet, I would respectfully slightly disagree with you on whether it matters where Eric has been: if you offer advice to people they have a perfect right to ask nicely what your background is.
For example there are posters here who have reconciled after a couple of years [and that is great] but some then urge others who have waited longer than that not to do so. It is important that we know their sitch: what we advise others is usually what worked for us, or, what we learned from doing it wrong. Either is good, but there us a difference. If i am taking advice i want to know if they have actually walked a path like mine, or a different one . . . and what they learned
