I feel for you, but let me tell you it's not over until you decide it's over. I could have written this list myself 2 months ago. W wanted me out and was adament that we were divorcing. I left and did GAL things. I stopped chasing and she's coming around. You have no way to know what will happen, but if you are anything like me then you are chasing her right now even when you don't mean to be and think you aren't - the tone of your post proves it.
Separation is painful. I won't sugar coat it, it [censored]. I've never done something so hard, but I'm 100% convinced that if I hadn't moved out then my sitch would not have started to turn.
I too am emotionally drained. I told my brother this morning that I feel like 10 months ago I was on a ship in the middle of the ocean and the ship sank. I have been swimming for 10 months and I'm exhausted. This week I saw land on the horizon for the first time in those 10 months. That's great, but I know that it will take at least 6 more months of swimming to get there. What choice do I have? I could just drown, but that's not very appealing, so I swim. Doesn’t matter how tired I am, I swim. You can too.
My opinion is this, other's may differ and what you chose is up to you: (1) Tell her ok, I accept that (2) Move out (3) Be the best dad you can be (4) GAL you A$$ off (5) Be happy about it - or fake it (6) Stop stop stop talking about your marriage EVER (7) and swim. Land might be right over the next wave, you never know.
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