So...am I still a newcomer?

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jb & AC, thanks, as always, for your thoughts and advice. I can always count on you to suggest other ways to approach this mess.

Denver, W has discussed moving out but has not brought up D. She says she is still in our home only because she can't afford her own place, although she had no problem sending the OM several hundred dollars last month (he's unemployed and is depending on my W to help him pay his bills ) . In previous R/M talks, though, we've agreed that if W moves out that is probably the end of the M. This EA has been in full bloom since February, and was exposed/admitted to in March (Monday, March 7 at 1:15 PM to be exact, but who's counting...). To my advantage, OM lives about 1700 miles away so I don't have to deal with her actually being with him.

KD, living under the same roof while all of this is happening is a nightmare. I leave the house as early as possible and come home as late as possible. It is heartbreaking to be physically "close" to my W and still know that she has no desire to R.

All, thank you for your comments and advice. I am going to ride it out as long as I can and not throw down the gauntlet just yet; I will not be the one to put the last nail in the coffin. My W has also told me she is confused and scared, and she really does not know what she wants. Those comments help me remember she is on her own bizarre journey that I have no control over.

I have been GALing as hard as I can, and it is those times I feel better about myself and my sitch. When I'm out of the house, I can cope. When I'm in the house, I should wear headphones and blinders.