Did you give your H the boundary that there would be no physical R with you until ow was gone? If you did, then there is no reason to repeat it because he already knows.
It's not like if you keep refusing him he'll go out and find someone else, he already has. IMO the more time he focused on wanting you, the less time he's focused on ow.
Some may say it is game playing, but it is human nature to want what you can't have. It may just be your H trying to reassure himself that you're right where he left you. That you're plan B if his R with ow doesn't work out. It keeps him from having to face reality and make a decision.
Stick to your guns RNP. You've laid your boundary, if your H wants you, then no more ow.
Keep living your life, working on yourself and moving forward. Your H will either run to catch up or he won't. If he doesn't, then you have a firm foundation in which to build a R with someone who deserves your devotion, and you theirs.
