hi alone, I just finished reading your story. I am sorry for all that you are going through. You have recieved some great advice from a few people. I want to say that being a friend to our WAS can be very tough. There is a fine line between being a friend and being a push over. You need to be friendly in the few conversations you have with your EP. Notice i said "few conversations". Stop taking all his calls, stop being at his beck and call. Make him think your too busy to stop what you are doing. Take a day, even 2 days to return his messages. I am wondering, just how many logistical issues can you still have to settle?
You have no children, not legally married and your home is being sold. What is the logistical connection?
Now i want to congratulate you on taking a higher paying job even though it is less interesting to you. Congratulations on the bike. 6 miles a day is a great way to think about this wonderful new adventure you are starting.
Alot of us live at home til we go to university, then we live on campus and experience that life. Some of us then move on to the real world and some of us move back home. By the sounds of it, you didnt get to experience this. You never got to experience the first apartment by yourself.
I think you need to embrace moving to the studio apartment. focus your energy on making this move the start of your new "adult life". YOur first step towards independance.
You obviously know the layout of the place, take some time to plan it. The layout of your furniture, the colors of the wall. Your very own first house warming party! I might add that you do not invite your EP. Really make that apartment your oasis in this crazy time of your life.
Please find something to focus on other than him and OW. I know how it can affect ones sanity. I like the apartment move, its a reason of celebration. Stop taking his calls, and when you do, dont talk about your relationship of his relationship with OW. If he starts down that path in the conversation, act like you have somewhere to be and you just realized the time. Dont be mean, but get out of the conversation quickly. Dont put yourself through the pain.
I hope some of what i said helps you. I will keep reading and I hope you get to a better place in your heart and mind soon.
