So...am I still a newcomer?

[any chance?]

Tele - sorry for your pain.

This is a tough one. My initial reaction is to agree with you - the massive disrespect is simply not right. But then I waffle, and remember the ideas that I have read several times in different books (DR among them) that most A's fade after a short period of time, that the WAW really is not fully aware of the pain she is causing, etc. For now, I urge you to calm down, take a step back, and take a deep breath. Do nothing in haste....

I hope the vets on this site, especially the wise women, will chime in on this one.

Good luck. Hang tight.