So...am I still a newcomer?

[Telemark]

I'm getting to the end of my rope with W's EA. She is spending nearly all of her time either in her bedroom or in her office texting away. I also heard her talking to him last night-our bedrooms adjoin each other, and I could hear her tell him she loved him, she missed him and wished she were with him.

To hear my W speak those words to another man was one of the most gut-wrenching things I have experienced.

I am not able to detach while this behavior is right under my nose.

I do not deserve to be disrespected in my own home this way, and I think it is time to say:

"W, you continue to maintain an EA with the OM, when you had assured me several times you were not doing that. Infidelity is something I should not have to endure in my own house. If you want to continue your relationship with him, you need to find your own place to live."

I'm not giving up, but I'm not giving in.