I do notice that you are saying when you find no evidence, you do NOT feel guilt for checking up...
???
What if you found out that your H has been snooping on you... and found a number he didn't recognize... so now... he's assumed your in an A and are simply trying to coerce him... or some such...
How would that feel? Would you be angry? Would you expect him to feel guilty for even considering that? Would you GUILT him for doing that?
