65 Days...

[Denver_2010]

^^^^^ Replies above.

UPDATE...

W flew to Philly with one girlfriend who lives here in Denver to visit another girlfriend. She left yesterday morning.

I struggled yesterday bc it was our anniversary.

While I am fairly confident that it had to be in the back of my W's mind, I also know, and understand, that she distracted by the excitement of her trip and by the company of her good friends.

I did not expect W to contact me about our anniversary even if it was on her mind. I know that she does not want to make me believe that she is anything less than undecided on our future together. She doesn't want to put off any sign of weakness in her position... or maybe, she truly has gotten to the point where she really doesn't want to be married anymore. Who knows? (rhetorical)

Anyway, I ultimately decided that I should acknowledge our anniversary. It was always me that was the one in our M who showed very little interest in sentimentality and romance.

So in the spirit of my 180 of being more loving of my W and being more present in our M, I decided that it was the right thing to do.

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My text: "Hey! I just want to acknoweldge our anniversary today. It will always be a special day to me. I will never regret asking you to marry me on New Year's Eve in 2008. That is the most tender and loving memory of my life. And I will never regret marrying you on this day. The smartest thing that I have ever done. I hope that you are enjoying your time to yourself and that you have a great time in Philly. Please tell GF1 and GF2 hello for me. Me."

W responded about 2 hours later: "thank you. That was nice of you. I'm so tired and delerious so I apologize for my late response."

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I'm pretty sure that she'd had a few drinks by the time that she replied.

Later, she posted a few photos of herself and her girlfriends together in Philly. She included comments about how much fun she was having and "I'm so happy!" ...

It made me a little sad that she wasn't thinking of me... but that is just selfish thinking...

I understand how and why she was able to have such a good time yesterday.

And I really am glad.

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Denver