I'll add... detach...

I find a lot of your posts are focused on your H and what he might be thinking, doing, etc...

He's not something you can control. Sad and frustrating, but true.

I wasn't as detached as I am now, once I stopped snooping. But they seem to go hand in hand.

As Jack said, I was done with the drama...

Really, really done...

and that's when I stopped snooping...

and that helped me detach.