I'm wondering if you've come to a solid conclusion as to why you took off the ring?
My ring has been off three times.
My W took hers off first.
Initially, that was MY reason. I kept my ring on to prove that I was committed to my M. But I admit that it was also to prove to her that I could stay M longer than her. As though somehow that made me better.
Hers remained off.
I then told her I was done and had taken my ring off. Truth is, I wasn't "done". I admit that I was also trying to manipulate her by taking the ring off, as though she might get scared to know that I was no longer committed to the M.
Hers remained off.
I put mine back on. Did not tell her I had done so, but I kept it on in her presence and know she did notice it, even though she said nothing of it.
Hers remained off... (see the pattern?)
I then got upset at another revelation that her EA (or PA) was still going on and took the ring off for about a week. I then put it back on to remind myself that, until we are D, I was still M. It was also safety for me while out in public to prevent becoming involved with anyone. (Like I'm being bombarded by R requests, left, right and centre... )
Hers remained off...
Anyhow, the point is, I have finally taken my ring off. Not because I'm done with the M. Not because I'm trying to prove some point to anyone. I have done so because, I felt I needed to "act as if..."
For no one else, but me.
If my M is over. If my W is truly done. If mediation is completed and D is filed and finalized... I will need to be single. So, I am practicing.
It hurt the first couple times. This last time? It didn't hurt at all. I have accepted it. I have surrendered. And it will go back on if the time comes.
What is your true reason for removing your ring?
And also, D1... How is the revelation from your friend's convo with your MIL worked for you?
Seems to me that you might have a bit of resentment going on...
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