Piecing my marriage back together again.

[MrBond]

IMHO,
If Talk was open to re-posting it would be great for your sitch. Both of you communicated better here than you did in real life. The reason being that you're actually able to think here before acting rather than just going what comes naturally to you.

My suggestion is this...if at all possible, keep your day to day interactions in person. During those periods when you are about to say something your are going to regret, or think you might, get away from her and right your thoughts down. Read them over, then give them to her without saying a single word. As hard as it is, you need to express yourself in a different way when it comes to personal stuff. Slowly you can wean yourself off the writing and talk to her directly and hopefully by then you'll be able to think before speaking.

I don't know if you've got another chance, but you've got nothing to lose. Especially when you've lost everything.