The problem with you being in this 'limbo' is that you WANT a direction to move in. Unfortunately as you have discovered that when you press for one from them, it is not the one you want.
IF this is an MLC then, "I don't know," is a good thing. You might not believe it, but it beats them knowing 100% that they are done.
Advice, do not press for an answer in the future.
As for:
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He brought up he can't be forgiven for OW
Well you said you forgave him...and that came too easy, I'm pretty sure inside, that you said this to appease him. Not calling you a liar, I just think it is not 100% geniune right now.
As for what he said.
My wife said something similar.
I told my wife, not to ever assume what I was or was not capable of, especially if I was this great person. That it was not her place to tell me what I could or could not do in regard to forgiveness.
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I will no longer do that.
Good, you said you read the book right?
You bring up the things you want, it reminds them of the things they don't want. (Right now)
Don't bring up Laywers or Divorce to him.
Talk softly.
In another post in newcomers, Julz, you basically vented about how unfair this all was, how come we had to do all the work. : )
You are the one here, you are the one with the books, this is how it is right now.
Try an vent here, or on an old-timers thread, but try not to do that on a new person, they have as many doubts as you do and the idea is to calm them; support them; get them to see new ways of thinking and living. I am asking as an old-timer here, not as a moderator. But as someone who knows the value of support.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
